8 people reveal why they stopped being sexually attracted to their partners

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At this signal, you should know that sex isn't the only reason to be in a relationship with someone.

Only sexual practice is a big component of a relationship for many couples. Establishing sexual compatibility is vital for a healthy relationship, and if information technology isn't there, some couples might simply call it quits.

It is also possible, however, to be in a committed relationship with someone, consider yourself to be in love with them, and not really desire to take sexual activity with them. In fact, not simply is it possible, it'due south more than common than you think — last year, a study institute that women tend to lose interest in sex almost a yr into a relationship.

However, there is an undeniable stigma around people who are in a relationship merely might not be into sex activity, which means that people aren't talking nigh it as much equally they could be.

Recently, to start more discussion on the topic, a Reddit user asked people to share how things panned out when they withal loved their significant other, but had stopped existence attracted to them. Scroll through to see what they had to say — you might be surprised by how much you relate.

1. Living together lowered one partner'southward sex drive.

It's hard to be attracted to someone if you're always cleaning upward subsequently them.
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"He was not a good partner in terms of the applied aspects of life together. I did all the laundry, all the cleaning, all the emotional labor, etc. Sexual attraction was strong before we moved in together because I wasn't doing those things; one time we moved in together, and I realized the dishes would never be washed if I didn't do them, sex declined chop-chop. The resentment that built over his lack of respect for my time and my labor completely overpowered sexual allure. He never seemed to empathise why I wasn't horny afterward picking up his dirty socks and throwing out the wrappers he left laying effectually everywhere." - Reddit user Napsaremyfavorite

2. Birth control and antidepressants can take a negative bear on on sex drive.

Nativity control can limit libido.
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 "My young man and I accept experienced a sexual attraction reject but I love him to death. If I'grand non in the mood he doesn't mind. I'll go a calendar month without wanting sex because of my nativity control and antidepressants and he doesn't mind. So I call back nosotros are fine." - Reddit user Jennifurbie

3. Attraction to their partner macerated over time.

Desire to accept sex tin lessen over time.
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"I loved this man and was with him for years, simply we had so many problems because I was well-nigh never in the mood for annihilation sexual, so over time he obviously became quite frustrated. To be honest, at present I try to only date guys I am very attracted to because of this experience." - Reddit user Pidgeon_English

four. They realized they weren't compatible enough with their partner anymore.

It tin be difficult to distinguish betwixt romantic and ideal love, especially in long-term relationships.
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"I realized I didn't love him romantically anymore but just every bit a friend. It was similar/same for him virtually me. We became like buddies rather than a romantic couple and broke up over that. We were both young, early 20s, and not experienced enough in dating. I yet cared for him, I wanted him to be happy, I would become upset if he was upset. But thinking well-nigh a future together as a couple went from being a heartwarming feeling to something unpleasant. I didn't empathize the verbal reason back then but at present looking dorsum, we grew apart every bit people. We weren't compatible enough anymore and we were too immature to work on it more than we already had." - Reddit user Redhaired103

5. Being asexual makes information technology then that sex isn't the main point of the relationship.

Sex isn't vital for everyone.
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"Since I'm asexual, I've never been sexually attracted to any of my SOs. I've had my fair share of relationships that somewhen ran their course for a variety of reasons, not always considering of sexual compatibility reasons.

I'm currently married to an amazing guy. I'one thousand non sexually attracted to him, per usual for me, but things are absolutely perfect between us. We've been together for 6 years now, and things are just getting better.

He's perfectly content having sex perchance once a month. It's ofttimes enough that he's satisfied, but infrequent enough that I don't heed it. He'south never pushy nigh sex activity like some guys I've dated, never tries to guilt me or pressure me into things, and has proven on several occasions that if I don't feel up to information technology or I need to stop halfway through, there are no hard feelings whatsoever." - Reddit user NinjaShira

6. Kids and life got in the way.

Once children enter the picture, information technology tin can exist difficult to schedule meals — permit alone sex.
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"I don't have a whole lot of sexual feelings in general, merely absolutely none relating to my married man. We are busy plenty between 2 very young kids and caregiving for a relative that we haven't fully noticed. I do wonder how things will be when the parent I care for dies and when our kids are older. Mayhap we will have a relationship and the feelings will come back." - Reddit user ScimtarJane.

7. Both parties were sleeping with other people.

If yous're both sleeping with other people, that's a pretty adept sign that the relationship has expired.
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 "We both ended up sleeping with other people and decided information technology would be best to stop things. It was rough, specially for me, but it was the correct choice in the end. Chemistry is important to me in a human relationship, without it I'd just feel similar they were a close friend or family member." - Reddit user Heywheresthecoffee

8. They decided they were better off equally friends.

Sometimes, it's improve to just be friends.
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"We broke up. It worked out well, though. I explained the 'triangular theory of dearest' to him having taken a human being growth and development form in higher. We both looked at it and told each other which 'loves' we felt for i some other. Nosotros ended upwardly both falling into the 'companionate love' expanse. So we went through with the breakdown but stayed very good friends." -Reddit user Maarsargo

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